How To Build Your Self Confidence

Out of every positive personality trait known to mankind, which would stick out to you as being the most important and predictive of future success? Intelligence? Kindness? Adaptability? There are many excellent traits to possess, yet to maximize and truly embody each of your best traits, one must focus on crafting, feeling and showing self-confidence. This is what we will cover today.

One of the most important things to realize about confidence is it's multidimensional, and more than anything, a mindset. Nerds and jocks, men and women, anyone and everyone can achieve confidence in a given area of their life. Confidence comes in two major varieties, inner confidence about who you are as a person, and specific confidence regarding individual skills or actions.

For example, a professional boxer is going to feel much more confident in the ring than a novice, and a competitive archer more so than someone who's never touched a bow. Writing, public speaking, dating, social skills, driving etc. are all examples of things in our lives we can work at to become proficient and feel confident in. The same goes for less common skillsets, like coding or mixed martial arts or archery. Specific confidence requires work, effort, a mastery of skills. As you improve your skillsets in a variety of areas, your overall confidence grows also.

A general or inner confidence, on the other hand, largely comes from working on yourself as a person. Not to be confused with false bravado, true self-confidence comes from being at peace with yourself, wielding your strengths to the best of your ability, and working on your weaknesses to become a more well-rounded person. Acceptance of your flaws, self-love and respect for all the ways you're working to better yourself are keys to becoming your best self.

Struggle with your dating life? Work on it, read up, put yourself in more co-ed environments and push yourself to have conversations with the sorts of people you find attractive. Feel insecure about your body? Work at it, go to the gym, do body weight workouts at home, restructure your eating habits, build muscle tone and definition while trimming the unwanted bits. Concerned about the future of your career? Work on it, go back to school, finish up qualifications and degrees to make you stand out, get training and internships, start your own business, get side-hustles going to bring in additional passive income. The bottom line is: no matter what you're doing or feel insecure about, work at it, one or two priorities at a time, and feel your confidence build ever higher.

Holding yourself high as you walk, swaying your hips or shoulders as you move, chest out and head up, keeping eye contact and actively engaging in conversations, speaking with a deeper, clear and steady voice, dressing in a manner that emphasizes traits you feel good about etc. are all excellent ways to show and express confidence. Project confidence everywhere you go, practice it along with your other desired skills, and over time you'll feel a steady improvement until embodying confidence feels natural to you.

Respecting yourself and others is key to showing true, internal, mature confidence. Take an interest in other people, ask about their lives and families, and see that interest returned to you. Likewise, when people mistreat you, don't be afraid to walk away. One of the key components of calm confidence is refusing to stay in unhealthy environments or around toxic people. Focus on your life, family, career and goals in your day-to-day life. Always be kind and respectful, yet remember what is truly important to you. Balancing these two realms of focus can be tricky at times, but when combined correctly, makes for a very charismatic and charming person.

And, if you struggle with self-love and your own image, consider speaking to someone. Therapy is excellent for talking things out with yourself. The whole point of the ordeal is for a professional to ask questions meant to get one thinking about their struggles, hurts and frustrations, and allow for emotional healing. While not necessary, getting someone to help guid you through the process of working on yourself is not a sign of weakness, but acceptance and strength. It can go a long way in helping you improve your self-worth and confidence.

So, work on yourself, wherever and however that can fit into your life. Improve your weaknesses and emphasize your strengths, and never lose sight of your priorities in life. Walk taller, project yourself more when speaking, don't let others walk over you, and stay calm and respectful as much as humanly possible. Before you know it, you'll be walking around like a regular James Bond.

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